jordan and i met at the gym. go ahead, judge.
we worked at the same company, and worked out at the company gym. i was dating someone when we met, and had sorta started to date someone else when he first asked me out. however, none of it was serious. i was preparing to serve an lds mission. i was almost finished with the application process when we met.
he was a few weeks off of his own lds mission, so he was still adjusting to normal life and was slightly awkward. he was not looking to date, just killing time working before he started school.
i remember i had eaten lunch at buffalo wild wings that day (big mistake) and went to work out with lee (the personal trainer) at about 4:30. i was introduced to jordan in a group of people. i thought he was fairly attractive, but nothing initially stood out to me. i continued to work out, and after some box squats, began to feel the effects of eating lots of chicken for lunch. i started a B-line to the bathroom, and on the way there, passed jordan. he claims he asked for my name and i rushed right by him, ignoring his question. all i remember was blowing chunks in the gym bathroom and resting on that disgusting white tile.
fast forward 1 week: i am an intern where we work, so i am delivering checks to everyone. i put jordan's on his desk. i linger, hoping he will say hi. he doesn't. he has no idea who i am. whatever, okay?
as soon as i returned to the gym after the chicken incident, the personal trainer started badgering me about jordan. (he full well knew i wanted to go on a mission, but decided to set us up anyway) he says, 'jordan thought you were really cute, kayla. he wants to ask you out. he told his parents that he wants to ask you out.' (his dad is an executive at the company we worked at, and his mom was the events manager. my in-laws knew me before jordan did.)
i came to found out later, these were ALL LIES. jordan never even mentioned me! lee saw these lies as his "ground work". he was telling the same lies to jordan, saying 'she keeps telling me that she wants you to ask her out, man.' again, LIES. so essentially, our relationship was based on the false pretense that the other party was interested. romantic.
about 3 or 4 weeks from the time we met, we ended up at the gym together again. (he usually worked out morning, i worked out evenings.) and lee was ALL OVER THAT. as soon as i finished my zumba class, he comes sprinting over. 'kayla! jordan's here, go talk to him!' i said, 'no, lee. i don't even know him.' at which point lee insisted, 'kayla, go over there and shoot hoops with jordan NOW.' i laughed him off and awkwardly walked over to jordan. we made small talk about tim tebow and schooling, all the while, lee was taking pictures of us on his phone, and sending them to people within the office. (this guy's crazy town. the good kind.) after a few minutes, i politely said goodbye and began to walk away, much to lee's dismay. i remember so distinctly this moment, when jordan called after me and asked for my number. i was fairly excited about it. maybe i just liked the attention, though.
he texted me the next day, and started asking me about myself. after a while, i started to wonder 'is he one of those weirdos that wants to get to know me over text?' nope, just awkward i-havent-asked-anyone-out-in-two-years syndrome.
the next day, saturday, i asked him if he wanted to go get hot chocolate. it was NOT intended to be a date, although we later agreed that it was. he was at the bsu football game, but he agreed to go when we got home. he picked me up (in his dad's audi. i was all like yes please!) and we drove to rembrant's, a cafe. closed. we drive to starbucks. also closed. drive to a bigger starbucks. still closed. (it was like 9:30 pm, people. strange things.)
so we're sitting there, in the starbucks parking lot, kind of at a loss. poor jordan. i was the first girl he'd been on a date with (that he didn't know in high school) since he'd been home. he was having heart attacks. he didn't know what to do! but something miraculous happened called we just started talking. and talking. and talking. and then we couldn't stop talking. we talked about our families, where we want to live someday, God, high school, sports, everything. it was amazing. we just clicked. we seemed to agree on every point we discussed. it was like discovering an old friend you hadn't talked to in years. neither of us were expecting it, but let me tell you. that night was magical. we began to see each other every day after that.
our first kiss was not long after (im not going to mention exactly how long) while we were watching miracle on 34th street. although i was concerned we kissed too soon, BAM fireworks. it was pretty intense. the next day at cafe rio, both of us kind of apprehensive about where the other person stood, we had a talk. jordan essentially asked me for some kind of reassurance that i was interested in him, and i told him 'well, i havent been this excited about a guy in a long time.' and he replied, 'i've never been this excited about a girl, ever.'
some of my friends came into town for a football game after like 2 weeks of dating, and they didn't greet jordan very warmly. (i think they were part alpha male, part feeling protective?) it was very awkward and jordan felt very invaluable. he took my nonchalant-ness about the situation as disregard for him. he attempted to break up with me on a sunday night. i told him i still cared about him a lot, and he quickly changed his mind.
we were our company celebrity couple. everyone wanted to know the fyi on our relationship, they were cheering for us, and all up in our business. it was hilarious. they cheered when they saw us leave the building together. they design team made us wedding announcements. however, jordan's boss instructed him to stay away from me. she had seen me leave this office with flowers from aforementioned boy i was going on dates with. she thought i was going to break his heart. psh.
we continued to see each other every day. although we didn't mean to, we had stumbled upon something pretty important. i told my girlfriends that i thought i met the guy i was going to marry. i was shocked those words made it out of my mouth. we had a tearful conversation about me deciding if i should go on a mission. i decided not to put my papers in. it's still a very surreal experience to me.
on a freezing day in december, as we discussed something worrisome, he blurted out, 'kayla, i love you.' he said it with such conviction that it literally gave me this warm sensation all throughout my body. i didn't say it back then, but i did later :)
the end of december loomed. jordan was going to byu in january, and i was staying in boise to continue my film internship. we had only known each other a short time, so it seemed foolish to commit. we decided to just let everything run it's course.
sad as i was to see jordan go, it was kind of a relief. i had not slept, worked out, or had a lot of interaction with my family since he entered my life. i was a little unbalanced. it was nice to take a step back and realize what i wanted. i continued to date other guys. jordan didn't date at all.
he had been gone about 2 weeks when he asked me not to date anyone else. i was fine with it. :)
he drove to boise and i drove to provo over the next 4 months. we talked every day, and through that time apart we realized how important we were to each other, and luckily, that our relationship relied on the right things.
what a glorious day it was when he returned home to me! at this point, things were headed pretty directly to marriage. we both felt stronger about this than anything else.
we had hiccups along the way. his sister didn't like me, my sister HATED him (i'm going to assume both of those phrases are past tense.) i got freaked out about commitment a lot. i honestly don't feel like i ever questioned the fact that i wanted jordan. despite these set backs, we had a great summer together.
i went on a cruise to mexico with some friends in june, and then straight to disneyworld with my best friend danielle. while there, we solidified some rough wedding plans. we would get married in september to ensure my being able to start school in january. it was quicker than i wanted, but it didn't matter. i wanted to be with jordan anyway. on july 5th, after taking me to our favorite restaurant, and our favorite rooftop, jordan proposed to me in that starbucks parking space where we first knew there was something there.
& really, who says no to this ring?!
we decided to be married in the san diego temple. we were able to go in a few adventures before that fall, including seattle:
and then on september 8th, we were married for time and all eternity.
i'm pretty thrilled about spending the rest of forever with this guy. he is my best friend and better half. although meeting at the gym is lame, im pretty darn glad we met at all.